听起来，阿昌哥因为这份工作遇到了很多歧视，比如，很多人不愿意和他握手，可能是因为觉得他常常和尸体在一起，很脏。但是，也有热爱这份工作的人。一位女生分享了她的看法：“在殡仪馆工作的这段时间 我并没有因为见多了死亡就变得麻木。无数个瞬间，在子女扶着棺材想再看父亲一眼的时候，在妻子亲吻死去丈夫额头的时候，在母亲为了儿子哭了三个小时的时候，我都想落泪。我们每一个人，都是子、是女，是夫、是妻，是父、是母。我们绝大部分人都只是过着默默无闻的一生。平凡，渺小。但在家人眼中 我们既像山海一般可靠，也像珍珠一般宝贵。”
Hello everyone! Welcome back to MaoMi Chinese!
Today, I would like to talk about a special job, which is the job in a funeral home. A funeral home is where a person goes after he dies.
In China, people rarely talk about death, and they are very afraid to talk about it. Because the numbers "four" and "die" sound alike, people also don't like the number "four". For example, houses with number four, number fourteen, number twenty-four, etc., are hard to sell. Apartments on the fourth and fourteenth floors are also cheaper because few people are willing to buy them. We can say that death is a taboo topic for Chinese people. Taboos are things that people don't want to and don't dare to talk about. Because of this, if you work in a funeral home, you may have a hard time finding friends and finding a partner. What is it like to work in a funeral home? Will they be discriminated against? Can they be understood? Some funeral home workers shared their experiences online and let's listen to their stories today.
A young man whose Internet username is "Achang Ge" said that he was born in 1995 and used to be a cremation worker in a funeral home. Cremation means putting something into a fire to burn. Achang Ge’s usual job is to cremate the body. Speaking of his work, he said, "After working in a funeral home for a long time, I have no special feeling about death. The work is not particularly tiring, but the working environment is not very good, especially in the summer, cremation of the body is really difficult. It's too hot! It's also very difficult to find a girlfriend. My family introduced me to many girls, but many people didn't even want to shake my hand when they heard that I was working in a funeral home. Later, my parents were too worried, so I didn't continue this job."
It sounds that Achang Ge suffered a lot of discrimination because of this job. For example, many people were reluctant to shake hands with him, probably because they feel that he often stayed with corpses and was very dirty. However, there are also people who love the job. A young lady shared her opinion, "During my work in the funeral home, I did not become ruthless because I saw too many deaths. In countless moments, when the children held the coffin and wanted to take another look at the father, when the wife kissed her dead husband's forehead, when the mother cried for her son for three hours, I wanted to cry too. Every one of us is a son, a daughter, a husband, a wife, a father, a mother. Most of us just live a life of obscurity. Ordinary, small. But in the eyes of our family, we are as reliable as mountains and seas, and as precious as pearls.”
The young lady said that she did not become ruthless because she saw too many deaths. To be "ruthless(numb)" means to have no feeling for something. "To be numb to death" means that there is no special feeling about death, and there is no more sadness or fear. Each of us lives a life of obscurity, she said. "默默无闻" means very ordinary, not famous. Because we are all ordinary people, our whole life is a life of obscurity. However, for our family, we are all very reliable, just like the mountains and the sea. We are also very precious, like pearls.
In my opinion, all work is worthy of respect. People who work in funeral homes work hard to let everyone leave this world with dignity, they should be understood and they should be respected. What do you think about this kind of work? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments!
6 thoughts on “#89 What is like to work in a funeral parlor in China? 在中国的殡仪馆上班是怎么样的体验？”
Thanks for your lessons. You taught me alot. This episode is also precious as to helping us open our mind about occupations and treasure lives.
Thank you! I am really pleased that it can be helpful for you!
Btw you have a beautiful Chinese name!
Hello, and thank you for making these podcasts! they are helpfull for improving my listening skills while not being too hard or too easy!
That’s so nice of you to say that! Thank you!
Hi! Thank you for all your hard work. I’ve learned a lot from listening to these podcast 🙂 Btw, I think this is the wrong audio for the episode. It says #90 (reality tv shows), but this is episode #89 (funeral parlor).
Thanks a lot, Emil! I’m happy you’re learning with these episodes. Thanks for pointing out the mistake. I don’t know what went wrong there! It should be fixed now.