第二个问题，为什么男性比女性多，但是依然有很多单身的女性呢？其实，只有在中国的城市里，才会有更多的单身女性。她们中的很多人有过高等教育，很多人也认为，自己的发展比结婚生孩子更重要。所以她们不想结婚，也不想生孩子，因为自己一个人更舒服，更自由。在城市里，也有很多男性选择单身，同样也是因为觉得结婚生孩子很麻烦，（see episode#42 No money, no marriage? How much does it cost to get married in China? 没钱就不能结婚？）自己一个人更舒服。年轻人都不愿意结婚生孩子了，所以政府一直在鼓励生育。
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Recently I read some news. The Chinese government announced that the newly-born population decreased again in 2021. It is only 10.62 million, which is 1.38 million less compared to last year. In the total population, men are over 30 million more than women.
On the Chinese Internet, those net users are discussing this issue and some comments are very interesting. Let’s have a read:
Someone said, “Lots of girls are single but it’s only because they don’t want to get married. They are very happy by themselves.” Someone complained, “We working tend to feel that it’s already difficult enough to survive alone, let alone raising a baby?” Someone is being sarcastic, “Surprisingly there are so many newly-borns. Seems like the prices of houses are not high enough!” What he means is that the prices of houses are already very high and young people can’t afford them. They won’t be happy to get married and have babies either. He didn’t expect that there are still some people who would like to have babies. Some people asked, “If men are so much more than women, why are there still so many ‘left-over’ ladies? ”
This guy mentioned the word ‘left-over ladies’, which means women who are left over, who are single, not in a relationship, not married. Firstly, this is a really horrible word and did not show respect to women at all. It makes it seem like women are goods and no one wants to buy them and they are leftover. In a traditional Chinese idea, women have to get married, else they are incomplete, but now many people think it’s outdated. Nowadays there are also many men who are single, and are called ‘left-over men’. Now ‘left-over men’ ’left-over women’ are some kinds of common vocab, which mean men and women who are single. So today let’s talk about ‘being single’. In China, what do those people who are single think? Why are they single?
The first question is why there are so many single men? In my opinion, this is related to the traditional idea of ‘boys are more important and girls are not’. In the previous podcast, we talked about this word, which means that many parents think that boys are more important than girls. This idea is still very popular in the Chinese countryside, and therefore many families want to have baby boys. If it’s a girl, parents might have an abortion. Nowadays in the Chinese countryside, there are more men than women, and lots of women are left to work in cities because women are more equal to men there. More men would stay in the countryside because they have to look after their parents. In the countryside, many men can’t find a partner and they have to be single.
The second question is why are there still so many single women even though there are more men than women? In fact, this can only be seen in Chinese cities. Most of these women have had higher education and many of them think that their personal development is more important than getting married and having babies. They don’t want to get married or have babies, because living alone is more comfortable and gives them more freedom. In cities, there are also many men who choose to be single, and it’s also because they think that getting married and having babies is big trouble, (see episode#42 No money, no marriage? How much does it cost to get married in China? 没钱就不能结婚？) and being alone is more comfortable. Young people would not like to get married and have babies, therefore the government has been encouraging childbirth.
The third question is what do those single Chinese people think? I interviewed a few of my friends, and let’s listen to what they said!
“Regarding my current situation I quite like being single, because I just started my job and would like to put the focus of life on my work. Meanwhile, I also want to focus on self-development in my non-working time, and I can do more things that I like. Compare to the time when I was not single, I feel like that… if I had a partner, I would spend more time on him. Well, it’s a bit like, I would be silly in love. But now because I am alone, I can spend the money I make and spend my own spare time without worrying about other people’s ideas. Therefore， I think that it’s pretty good to be single.”
She said that she quite like being single because she can focus more on self-development. She said that when she was in a relationship, she was a bit silly in love, which means that she thought that her partner was very important and she spent lots of time on her partner, and care too much about what her partner thought. But now she is single, so she can do whatever she likes and doesn’t need to care what other people think. She feels it’s freer now.
“I like myself when I am single because I can leave lots of time and energy to myself, to look after myself, take care of myself, understand and recognise myself. Well, it’s very free, really free to whatever extent and in every sense.”
He said that when he’s single he has more time to look after himself, and he also feels it’s very free.
In fact, no matter if you are single or not, it is a choice of life. I am very happy to see that Chinese society is more and more open to this topic, and lots of young people are able to make their own choice.