第六个，艰难，tough and difficult。比如，教育孩子的过程很艰难。学习中文的过程可能会很艰难，但是一定会有收获。
Hello everyone. Welcome back to MaoMi Chinese. Recently on the Chinese Internet, there has been a male celebrity who's got lots of concern and discussion about him. He is called Nathan Scott Lee, who is an American Korean. He’s a singer as well as an actor. His wife is a Chinese actress and now they live in Beijing with their daughter. But the most special thing is that after their daughter was born, Lee’s wife has been working and Lee himself has been a full-time daddy for 6 years.
What is 全职奶爸? 全职，means full-time. If we would like to say part-time, then this would be 兼职。奶爸，means little babies’ dad. Because little babies have to drink milk every day, 奶爸 also got the meaning of feeding babies milk.
In Chinese society, so far in most families, men work outside and women look after their families. What does it mean? We know that 外means outside, 内，means inside. 男主外，女主内, means that men mainly work outside, make money and support the family. Women mainly look after children at home and do housework. However, now lots of women also have to work. Therefore, mums have to not only look after children but also work. It’s especially hard.
There is a part of people who don’t know why Lee had to be a full-time dad, as they think that men should work and make money. These people’s ideas are rather old and behind the time. Some people even said that being a full-time dad is ‘eating soft rice’吃软饭。吃软饭 is not a nice word in China, and kind of insulting. We know 饭is rice, and 软is soft. Eating soft rice means relying on women. To many people this is something that makes people ‘lose face’. But I would like to tell Lee and all full-time dads that being a full-time dad is a great job, the same as those full-time mums. They are happy to spend time looking after their children and do lots of parenting. This is not an easy thing and it’s very tough and difficult. Lee shared his feeling of being a full-time dad in a TV interview. Let’s have a listen:
“I think that educating children is a really difficult job. What kind of father that I want to be? But during that, I realised I was pushing her too much for something. My emotion was not well controlled either. This kind of emotion was not purely from her doing right or not, it was also from how I felt at that moment. My anxiety or my pressure wherever they were from, were all passed to her. After telling her off, when she was sleeping, I got some kind of emotion that really broke me down. In the daytime, I was like （telling her off）， but when she sleeps I would cry for no reason. While looking at her I felt like ‘Daddy feels very sorry for you’. Then I would make a promise again, like tomorrow I need to do this and that. I also watched a pile of books about parenting, like how I could be a good parent and what parenting should be like. This kind of process was really rough and difficult.”
He said that when he was doing parenting, he did not control his emotion well, which means feelings, like feeling happy, sad, angry and so on. He also said that during that period of time he was a bit broken-down. To say someone is broken-down, it means that he/she has too much pressure and emotion, and he/she can’t bear it. In the end, he said that the process of parenting/educating children is really tough and difficult.
Therefore, to both men and women, parenting/educating children is tough and difficult. Full-time mums and dads are all great people. So far in China, there are still some people who don’t know and understand why someone chooses to be a full-time dad. They think that being a full-time dad is just relying on their wife, which is completely wrong. They are actually great parents!
At the end let’s talk about today’s vocabulary and expressions again!
1 全职，full-time. Full-time dad and full-time mum are great jobs. If we would like to say part-time then it will be 兼职, for example, she is a part-time teacher.
2 男主外，女主内, which means that men work and women look after children at home. There are lots of Chinese families who are like that, but there are also some families where the mum works and the dad looks after the children at home.
3 吃软饭, which means that a man is relying on a woman (his girlfriend or wife). This is not a very nice word and is not respectful to either men or women.
4 情绪，emotion，all kinds of feeling, no matter they are good or not, like happy, angry, sad and so on. For example, every day we have all kinds of feelings but we need to control our own feelings.
5 崩溃， breakdown, which means someone is having too much pressure and emotion and he/she can’t stand it. You can say that I have done too much work recently and has been too busy. I am going to break down.
艰难，tough and difficult. For example, the process of parenting/educating children is very tough and difficult. The process of learning Chinese might be tough and difficult but we will definitely have an outcome.
That’s all about today. We will see again next week!