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In January 2021, MaoMi Chinese released its 25th episode, introducing the journey of Su Min, a retired Chinese housewife who left her marriage behind to travel around China. Now, five years into her journey and having turned 60, her story has even been made into a film this year. How is she doing now? Find out more in today’s episode!
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After hearing Su Min’s story, you might wonder—why didn’t she divorce her husband? In fact, getting a divorce in China can be relatively difficult. So, what prevents people from divorcing? Dive deeper into Chinese marriage law and the system this Tuesday on MaoMi Chinese+!
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MaoMi Chinese的老朋友们可能还记得，在2021年1月，MaoMi Chinese第25集，我们聊了一位叫苏敏的中国阿姨。2020年9月，苏敏阿姨55岁。因为受不了她的丈夫，她离家出走了。离家出走，意思是离开家，去其他的地方。离家出走以后，她开着她的小汽车环游中国。现在是2024年了，苏敏阿姨60岁了。她的故事被拍成了一部电影，叫《出走的决心》。现在，苏敏阿姨过得怎么样了呢？她和她的丈夫离婚了吗？今天，我们一起来聊一聊！
苏敏阿姨在55岁以前，有着很难过的人生。小时候，她的父母不关心她，只关心她的三个弟弟。苏敏阿姨很想离开这个家，但是那个时候，女人的机会太少了，她觉得她只有结婚，才能离开她的家。22岁，苏敏阿姨就结婚了，很快，她也有了一个孩子。结婚以后，她发现她的丈夫是一个很糟糕的男人，经常对她冷暴力。冷暴力，意思是不和一个人说话，也不管一个人。苏敏阿姨有了一个女儿，照顾女儿很辛苦，也很累，但是她的丈夫很少帮忙。除了冷暴力，她的丈夫也经常骂她，还会打她。那时候，苏敏阿姨没有工作，只能依靠丈夫。女儿长大以后，也结婚了，也有了孩子，但是女儿和女儿的丈夫工作很忙，苏敏阿姨又经常帮女儿照顾孩子，也就是她的外孙。
苏敏阿姨的梦想是开车环游中国，环游世界。她后来努力工作，存了一些钱，买了一辆很便宜的汽车。后来，她又买了一个可以放在车顶的帐篷。55岁的一天，她和她的丈夫又吵了架。这一天，她决定离家出走。她开着车，去看了中国的很多地方，看了很多美丽的风景。到了晚上，她就在车顶的帐篷里睡觉。这一天开始，她实现了她的梦想。她在社交媒体上分享了她的故事，到现在，她已经有一百多万的粉丝。后来，苏敏阿姨给自己买了房车，这样她可以有更舒服的生活。有时候，她的女儿，女儿的丈夫，还有外孙也会来看她，和她一起旅游，住在房车里。
你们可能会问：“那么，苏敏阿姨的丈夫呢？他们离婚了吗？”苏敏阿姨一直都很想离婚，但是他的丈夫不愿意。在中国，如果丈夫或者妻子不愿意离婚，离婚是要去法院的。今年，苏敏阿姨又和丈夫说要离婚，他的丈夫说：“离婚可以，但是你要给我50万。”因为苏敏阿姨赚了一些钱，他的丈夫想要她的钱。苏敏阿姨太生气了，去找了律师，想着要去法院。但是，律师说，如果去法院，法官很可能平分他们的财产。平分，意思是一个东西分成两半，一样的。以后苏敏阿姨在社交媒体上赚的钱，也很可能要和他平分。苏敏阿姨没有办法，后来，阿姨给了他的丈夫16万人民币，他们才终于离婚了。
几天前，60岁的苏敏阿姨给五年前的自己写了一封信，她是这样说的：
“我想给五年前的自己写一封信。这个世界给我们女人的枷锁已经够多，够沉重了。为自己骄傲吧，你一个人度过了那么多艰难的时光。希望你的余生有足够的勇气去面对风，去面对雪，面对朝阳。希望你自由地活着，永远在看花的路上。”
苏敏阿姨说，女人身上的枷锁已经很多，也很重了。枷锁，意思是让人不能动的东西。她希望自己能有勇气去面对风，面对雪。风雪，在中文里，常常有困难的意思。她也希望自己能面对朝阳。朝阳，也就是早上的太阳，常常有希望的意思。她希望自己能自由地活着，永远在看花的路上，意思是希望她自己能永远自由，也能去看更多美丽的风景。
今年，有一个电影公司把苏敏阿姨的故事拍成了电影，电影叫《出走的决心》。如果，你对苏敏阿姨的故事感兴趣，一定要去看看这一部中文电影。
这个星期二，我们也会在MaoMi Chinese+聊一聊，为什么在中国离婚很难。如果你感兴趣，欢迎你加入MaoMi Chinese的会员频道！
Hello, everyone! Welcome back to MaoMi Chinese!
Long-time listeners of MaoMi Chinese may remember that in January 2021, in Episode 25, we talked about a Chinese woman named Su Min. In September 2020, Aunt Su Min was 55 years old. Unable to bear her husband any longer, she decided to leave home. “Leaving home” means leaving one’s household to go somewhere else. After leaving, she travelled around China in her little car. It’s now 2024, and Aunt Su Min is 60 years old. Her story has been made into a film called The Determination to Leave. How is Aunt Su Min doing now? Has she divorced her husband? Let’s talk about it today!
Before the age of 55, Aunt Su Min had a difficult life. As a child, her parents didn’t care about her, only her three younger brothers. She desperately wanted to leave home, but at that time, there were very few opportunities for women. She felt that the only way out was to get married. At the age of 22, she married and soon had a child. After getting married, she discovered that her husband was a terrible man who often subjected her to emotional abuse. Emotional abuse means ignoring or neglecting someone. Aunt Su Min had a daughter, and taking care of her was exhausting and difficult, but her husband rarely helped. Besides the emotional abuse, her husband often insulted her and even hit her. At that time, Aunt Su Min had no job and could only rely on her husband. After her daughter grew up, got married, and had children of her own, Aunt Su Min often helped look after her grandchild since her daughter and son-in-law were very busy with work.
Aunt Su Min’s dream was to drive around China and the world. She worked hard, saved some money, and bought a very cheap car. Later, she bought a tent to place on the roof of her car. One day, at the age of 55, after another argument with her husband, she decided to leave home. She drove to many different parts of China and saw a lot of beautiful scenery. At night, she slept in the tent on top of her car. From that day onwards, she started living her dream. She shared her story on social media, and now, she has over a million followers. Later, Aunt Su Min bought herself a motorhome, so she could live more comfortably. Sometimes, her daughter, son-in-law, and grandchild visit her, and they travel together in the motorhome.
You may be wondering: “What about Aunt Su Min’s husband? Did they get divorced?” Aunt Su Min always wanted a divorce, but her husband refused. In China, if either the husband or wife doesn’t agree to a divorce, it has to go to court. This year, Aunt Su Min brought up divorce with her husband again, and her husband said, “Fine, we can divorce, but you have to give me 500,000 yuan.” Since Aunt Su Min had made some money, her husband wanted a share of it. Furious, Aunt Su Min consulted a lawyer, thinking about going to court. However, the lawyer told her that if she went to court, the judge would likely split their assets equally. Splitting assets equally means dividing them in half. This also meant that any money Aunt Su Min earned on social media in the future might also have to be split. Left with no other option, Aunt Su Min ended up giving her husband 160,000 yuan, and they finally got divorced.
A few days ago, 60-year-old Aunt Su Min wrote a letter to her younger self from five years ago, and this is what she said:
“I want to write a letter to my younger self from five years ago. The shackles placed on us women by this world are already numerous and heavy enough. Be proud of yourself. You’ve survived so many difficult times on your own. I hope you’ll have the courage to face the wind, the snow, and the rising sun in the years ahead. I hope you’ll live freely, always on the road to seeing flowers.”
Aunt Su Min says that women already bear many heavy shackles. Shackles refer to things that hold people back. She hopes that she can have the courage to face the wind and snow, which in Chinese often symbolise hardships. She also hopes to face the rising sun, which symbolises hope. She wishes to live freely, always on the path to seeing flowers, meaning she hopes to always be free and see more beautiful sights.
This year, a film company made a movie based on Aunt Su Min’s story, titled The Determination to Leave. If you’re interested in her story, be sure to check out this Chinese film!
This Tuesday, we’ll also be discussing on MaoMi Chinese+ why getting a divorce is so difficult in China. If you’re interested, you are very welcome to join the MaoMi Chinese membership!
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