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#153 Does a Divorce Cooling Period Really Help? 离婚冷静期真的有用吗?

In this MaoMi Chinese podcast episode, I explore the introduction of a 30-day divorce cooling-off period in 2021, prompting reflection on its impact. While the law appears to have reduced divorce rates, things may not be so simple. 

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中国人常常说:“三思而后行。”意思是,做决定以前,要好好想一想,至少想三次,再去做这个决定。人们也常常说:“不要冲动,要冷静。”尤其是在做一些人生决定以前,一定要三思而后行,冷静地想一想。比如,买房子,找工作,结婚,离婚,等等。在中国,如果人们想离婚,人们不能马上离婚,而是会有一个冷静期,让人们三思而后行,好好想一想,这就叫“离婚冷静期”。

2021年,中国开始有这样的法律:丈夫和妻子如果想要离婚,他们需要去民政局申请。申请以后,他们不能马上离婚。他们会有一个“离婚冷静期”。离婚冷静期一般是三十天。在离婚冷静期里,如果丈夫或者妻子不想离婚了,他们就不能离婚。如果丈夫或者妻子一定要离婚,就很可能要起诉离婚。离婚冷静期过了以后,如果丈夫和妻子还是要离婚,他们才能真的离婚。

为什么会有离婚冷静期呢?过去的几年,在中国,结婚的人越来越少,离婚的人也越来越多,越来越少的人要生孩子。为了让更少的人离婚,就有了这个离婚冷静期。中国人怎么看离婚冷静期呢?很多人都非常讨厌,觉得这是最糟糕的法律之一。有人说:“有离婚冷静期,为什么不能有结婚冷静期呢?要离婚这么麻烦,结婚以前更要三思而后行了! ”也有人说:“因为这个结婚冷静期,我更不想结婚了。”

因为离婚冷静期,很多人想要离婚,却不能离婚。有一些丈夫对他们的妻子家庭暴力,妻子想要离婚却不能离婚,因为她们的丈夫不想离婚。只要他们在结婚冷静期里说他们不离婚,他们的妻子想要离婚也特别难,只能起诉离婚。但是,起诉离婚通常花很多时间。

离婚冷静期真的有用吗?2019年,中国有大约404万对夫妻离婚,到了2021年,有了离婚冷静期后,只有大约214万对夫妻离婚。离婚的人好像少了,对不对?但是,我们再来看一看结婚的人:2019年,中国结婚的夫妻大约1000万对,到了2021年,只有大约764万对。

在你的国家,也有这样的法律吗?你怎么看离婚冷静期呢?欢迎在MaoMi Chinese的网站上给我们留言,和我们分享!

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Chinese people often say, "三思而后行" (sān sī ér hòu xíng), which means before making a decision, one should think carefully, at least three times, before proceeding with the decision. People also often say, "不要冲动,要冷静" (bù yào chōngdòng, yào lěngjìng), meaning "Don't be impulsive, stay calm." Especially when making life decisions, it is essential to think three times before acting and calmly reflect. For example, buying a house, finding a job, getting married, getting divorced, etc. In China, if people want to get divorced, they cannot do it immediately; instead, there is a cooling-off period called the "离婚冷静期" (líhūn lěngjìng qī).

In 2021, China introduced a law stating that if a husband and wife want to divorce, they need to apply at the Civil Affairs Bureau. After applying, they cannot divorce immediately; they will have a "离婚冷静期." This cooling-off period is generally thirty days. During this period, if either the husband or the wife changes their mind about divorce, they cannot proceed. If they are determined to divorce, they may have to file a lawsuit. After the cooling-off period, if the husband and wife still want to divorce, they can proceed with the legal process.

Why is there a cooling-off period for divorce? In recent years in China, the number of people getting married has been decreasing, while the number of divorces has been increasing, and there are fewer people having children. To reduce the divorce rate, the cooling-off period was introduced. How do Chinese people view this cooling-off period? Many people dislike it and consider it one of the worst laws. Some say, "If there's a cooling-off period for divorce, why not have one for marriage? It's so troublesome to get divorced; we should think carefully before getting married!" Others express, "Because of this cooling-off period for marriage, I'm even more reluctant to get married."

Due to the cooling-off period, many people who want to get divorced cannot do so. Some husbands may be violent, and their wives want a divorce but cannot proceed because their husbands don't want it. As long as they say they won't divorce during the marriage cooling-off period, it becomes challenging for their wives to pursue a divorce, and they might have to go through a lengthy legal process.

Is the cooling-off period for divorce really effective? In 2019, around 4.04 million couples divorced in China. By 2021, with the introduction of the cooling-off period, the number decreased to approximately 2.14 million divorces. It seems like there are fewer divorces, right? However, let's also look at the number of marriages: in 2019, around 10 million couples got married in China, while in 2021, only about 7.64 million couples tied the knot.

Do similar laws exist in your country? What are your thoughts on the cooling-off period for divorce? Feel free to leave us a comment on maomichinese.com and share your views!

2 thoughts on “#153 Does a Divorce Cooling Period Really Help? 离婚冷静期真的有用吗?”

  1. 我觉得这个法律是奇奇怪怪的。如果妻子或者丈夫要离婚的话,就让他们离婚。 这些法律真他妈烦。 中国只是想提高他们的出生率百分比。

  2. 这个法律对我来说真的不公平,为什么男性可以随时离婚,而且女性要离婚的话却必须起诉呢?我觉得这真的很麻烦。
    我同意每个人在做决定之前都应该三思而后行。夫妻之间遇到困难时,他们可以离婚前冷静一下,但是制定这项法律我觉得不那么好,因为我觉得应该是自愿,而不是被强制的。

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