#163 Stop the Bullying Style Education! 不要再霸凌式教育孩子了!

A video of bullying style education went viral on Chinese social media. Find out more in today’s episode!

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最近,我看到一条让我很心痛的视频。视频里,有一个说她自己是教育专家的人,在一个孩子的家里,让孩子砸烂了他的全部玩具。这个专家说,她这是为了孩子好,这样孩子才能专心学习。她的视频让很多中国网友生气,大家都说:不要再霸凌式教育孩子了!今天,我们来聊一聊,这个视频拍了什么,为什么会让这么多人生气。

 

拍视频的人是一个叫赵菊英的女人。她是一个退休了的老师,她以前当老师当了33年。她说自己是教育专家,可以帮家长好好教育孩子,让孩子好好学习。很多家长邀请她来家里,帮他们教育孩子。每一次,她都会拍视频。在这些视频里,我们可以看到赵菊英批评孩子,说孩子学习不认真,还会用尺子打孩子的手。有一个男孩儿喜欢玩手办,买了很多手办。她让男孩儿把手办都砸了。有一个女孩儿喜欢看漫画书,她让女孩儿把漫画书都扔进垃圾桶。我们来听一听她是怎么样批评孩子的:

 

“你物理原先是99分,第一次100,第二次99,第三次96,我不想打你。俄罗斯著名的教育家说,没有惩罚的教育是不完整的教育,跪着的老师教不出站着的孩子来。”

 

我觉得这个孩子的物理考试考得很好啊!我觉得物理特别难,但是他考试能考九十多分,很厉害! 但是赵菊英觉得孩子没有认真学习。赵菊英还说,“没有惩罚的教育是不完整的教育”。她认为,教育孩子一定要用惩罚,因为只有这样,孩子才会听话。可是,我们真的需要听话的孩子吗?我们需要的是快乐的孩子,健康的孩子,独立的孩子,善良的孩子。每一个孩子都有自己的兴趣爱好,为什么不能让他们有兴趣爱好呢?他们的生活不应该只有学习啊!

 

我是一个老师,我看到这样的视频很难过。这种霸凌式的教育,只会控制孩子,只会给孩子带来伤害,不会给孩子更好的身心健康,也不会给孩子更好的未来。和我想法一样的,还是非常多的中国网友。他们在视频下留言,说他们非常讨厌霸凌式教育。有人说,她以前喜欢在上课的时候画画,后来她去了最好的美术大学,现在是成功的设计师。有人说,他以前也喜欢玩手办,现在他是一个成功的工程师。

 

我也想说说我的故事。我小时候很喜欢读侦探小说,我的老师说,读这种书没有用,因为考试不会考。但是我因为侦探小说,喜欢上了阅读,也喜欢上了写小说。后来,我成为了记者,再后来,我成为了老师。在我的学校里,我组织了一个侦探小说俱乐部。有很多学生来我的俱乐部,我们一起读书,一起探索谜题。学生很快乐,我也很快乐,因为我们可以一起探索我们的爱好。

 

很多年轻人都特别反对霸凌式的教育,鼓励孩子要有兴趣爱好,所以我也相信,在未来,中国对孩子的教育会越来越好。

Hello everyone! Welcome back to MaoMi Chinese!

 

Are you currently single, dating, or married? Single means you’re on your own. Dating means you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Married means you’re already married. Recently, I saw a particularly interesting term on social media: “友情婚” (yǒuqíng hūn), which means “friendship marriage.” A friendship marriage is when you marry a friend for the sake of convenience. Friendship marriages originated in Japan, where many young people marry friends not out of love, but for convenience. Many Chinese netizens have also started discussing friendship marriages. So, what do Chinese people think about friendship marriages? How do they view the institution of marriage? Today, let’s talk about friendship marriages!

 

Many people might have thought like this when they were young, “When I grow up, I’ll live with my best friend.” But as we grow older, we might have boyfriends, girlfriends, we might get married, have husbands or wives, and live with them and maybe children. Many people living together often argue. Sometimes it’s because of different lifestyles, sometimes it’s because the love has faded, and sometimes there’s no apparent reason. Many people say, “Marriage is the tomb of love,” meaning that after marriage, husbands and wives often argue, and love slowly fades away. This may be the saddest thing. Young people who choose friendship marriages say that their lifestyle is very similar to that of their friends, so they don’t have to change much, making living together more comfortable and convenient.

 

Another benefit of friendship marriages is saving money. In Japan and China, people find it strange if someone doesn’t get married. If a person doesn’t get married, their parents and other relatives will worry a lot. In China, many parents arrange blind dates for their children because they think their children must get married. Some young people don’t want to date or get married, but under pressure from their parents, they will marry a friend. After marriage, they will live together and spend less money than when they were single, saving money. They won’t sleep together; they have their own rooms. They live together but don’t have a sexual relationship, like college roommates.

 

Friendship marriages are still quite niche in China, but it’s also a choice. In Chinese culture, parents and family are very important, and many people feel they should listen to their parents, so not everyone can rebel against their parents. Some people don’t want to get married and don’t have time to date, so they settle for marrying someone. “Settle” means doing something you don’t like because there’s no better option. They get married not for love but for convenience. On social media, some netizens say, “Young people don’t have time to date and marry. Friendship marriages can put parents at ease, and living with friends is more comfortable.” Some netizens say, “Friendship marriages seem good, but there are also many problems. Friends also argue, and if you’re not careful, you’ll not only get divorced but also lose a friend.”

 

What do you think of friendship marriages? Do you think marriage must be based on love? Feel free to leave us a comment and share your thoughts!

2 thoughts on “#163 Stop the Bullying Style Education! 不要再霸凌式教育孩子了!”

  1. 我也拒絕霸凌教育因為只教孩子怎麼通過考試但生活有很多方面。不是只考試

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